Yes, to a point. Everyone wants to feel secure in relationships. Anxious attachment is when the need for reassurance becomes insatiable, when no amount of closeness fully settles the anxiety for long, when the fear of losing someone shapes your behavior in ways that cost you. The signal isn’t wanting connection. It’s when managing the fear of losing it becomes the organizing principle of your relationships.

Sometimes it is. Anxious attachment often develops in early environments where caregiving was genuinely unpredictable, and it can pull people toward relationships that recreate that dynamic. Both things can be true: your partner’s behavior might be worth addressing, and your nervous system’s response might be amplified beyond what the situation calls for. Part of the work is learning to tell the difference.

The pattern that gets called “too much” — the intensity, the need for reassurance, the difficulty tolerating uncertainty — can push people away, which confirms the very fear driving it. That’s the trap. The work isn’t about making yourself smaller. It’s about building enough internal security that you’re not asking relationships to carry what only your own nervous system can.

No. Anxious attachment shapes friendships, family relationships, work dynamics, and your relationship with yourself. The fear of not being enough, the monitoring, the self-abandonment to maintain connection; these show up across every relational context.

Therapy can last any time between a year to many more, as long as you are still progressing from our work. The length of therapy depends on what you want and need, and what you want/need can be fluid and dynamic. 

Healing and personal growth is not strict or predictable. You can start off by wanting to address something very specific (e.g. “I want to feel less anxious”), but through our work together could realize a deeper meaning to these anxious symptoms (e.g. “I feel anxious because I am terrified of intimacy” to “I’ve had very familiar experiences of being emotionally suffocated when I was close to people”). Realizing these deeper long-standing issues may then shape the focus and length of treatment. 

Regardless of why you are seeking therapy and how long you hope to be in treatment, it is important to remember that your thoughts and input are invaluable to me, and the pace and length of treatment will always be a collaborative discussion.

Meeting consistently and stably on a weekly basis will help build safety and trust, which is essential for the work to progress on a deeper level. Biweekly sessions impact the effectiveness of therapy. 

Often, meeting less frequently results in a ‘catch up’ type of session and does not allow for the time, space, and emotional capacity needed to address what goes on beneath the surface.

Depending on the level of our work, there are also times when meeting two or more times a week is appropriate, and that will always come from us talking and making that decision together.

If you have out-of-network benefits, your insurance may be able to reimburse you for approximately 50%-80% of each session after the out-of-network deductible is met.

Out-of-network psychotherapy coverage varies by carrier and policy. It can be confusing, but we’re here to help! If you aren’t sure whether or not you have out-of-network benefits, we can check for you. Just email your insurance card and date of birth to info@imagineemotionalwellness.com 

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