Therapy For Couples
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Relationships are hard work. Even couples that start out happy and strong can hit rough patches.
There will be times when you and your partner disagree, fight, and feel like you’re giving up. Common problems like struggling to communicate, growing apart, intimacy issues, financial stress, lack of quality time, and unresolved conflicts can chip away at that foundation of trust and closeness you once shared.
But that doesn't mean that your relationship is doomed. You can address issues before they become insurmountable.
Couples therapy is a safe and confidential space where you and your partner can explore the challenges you’re facing and work together to find solutions. A skilled couples therapist can help you to identify the root causes of your problems and develop strategies for overcoming them. They can also teach you new communication and conflict resolution skills, and help you to build intimacy and trust.
Common issues that bring couples to us
We work with couples who struggle with closeness & communication. This includes:
- Loss of emotional connection - Feeling distant, lack of communication
- Lack of intimacy - Mismatched sex drives, boredom in the bedroom
- Arguments - Constant bickering, inability to resolve disagreements, heated conflicts escalating
- Unequal division of labor - Imbalance in managing household chores, childcare duties, mental load - leading to resentment
We also support and guide couples who are dealing with issues like
- Infidelity - An affair has occurred, or there are suspicions/jealousy around cheating.
- Major life transitions - Stress navigating changes like pregnancy, infertility, blended families, layoffs
- Interference from in-laws/family - Meddling by extended family causing discord
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Take the First Step Towards a Stronger Relationship
How our therapists can help your relationship
What to expect in couples therapy
Beginning couples counseling is a courageous first step toward strengthening your relationship.
Initial sessions will focus on identifying core issues and ingrained patterns that need attention. We’ll have an open discussion about your level of commitment and desire to put in the hard work needed. Therapy can help strengthen relationships with dedication from both people. If either partner is considering ending the relationship, that option deserves exploration. Therapy can provide clarity.
During this process, we will collaborate to find a pace that challenges you while maintaining emotional safety. Moving too fast or slow in processing emotions and making changes will limit progress.
The foundation of successful couples counseling is tailoring the approach to fit your unique relationship history, goals and needs. Depending on your goals, we can learn new communication and conflict resolution skills and work through repetitions so that these skills become second nature. Working through buried emotions may temporarily increase arguments as repressed feelings surface. Exploring sensitive topics could initially worsen anxiety. This is often part of the path toward healing.
With commitment and effort, open communication and working through dysfunctional dynamic in a neutral and guided therapeutic setting can help you progress towards a healthier fulfilling relationship.
Areas of your relationship that couples therapy can address:
- Identify negative or maladaptive communication patterns
- Improve communication skills to address communication breakdowns
- Develop healthy boundaries and conflict resolution skills within the relationship
- Rebuild emotional intimacy and trust
- Promote vulnerability by opening up about underlying emotions and needs in a safe therapeutic space
- Address disconnects in physical intimacy
- Decide if the relationship can be saved or should end
- Align on shared goals, priorities and visions for the relationship
- Manage challenges like blended families, health issues, careers, etc.
- Restore trust and commitment after betrayal or growing apart
- Talk through infidelity and other betrayals in a neutral therapeutic space
- Identify and address underlying issues that may be contributing to their problems. This could include things like childhood experiences, communication styles, or individual mental health issues.
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Frequently Asked Questions
about therapy for couples
We work with various dynamics and relationships including:
- LGQTQIA+ relationships
- Blended families
- Second marriages
- Interracial couples
Couples therapy isn’t just for relationships in crisis. Many couples seek counseling to strengthen bonds and prevent small issues from becoming serious problems down the road. For instance, couples can see therapy to:
- Get support navigating common challenges like blended families, job stress, fertility issues, etc.
- Address problems early before they escalate into entrenched patterns
- Learn how to resolve disagreements and compromise
- Gain tools to express appreciation and validate each other’s feelings/needs
- Prepare for upcoming changes or milestones like marriage, parenthood, retirement
- Make time to focus on “us” amidst the demands of careers and family
A strong relationship takes constant nurturing. Couples counseling is a tool to nurture your relationship.
Couples therapy provides the tools needed to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship, but it is not a magic bullet. It takes both partners to be committed to change and to be willing to put in the work. If both partners are committed, couples therapy can be a very effective way to improve your relationship and build a stronger, more fulfilling future together.
- Being vulnerable and honest about your thoughts, feelings and behaviors. This level of openness and authenticity requires
- Willingness to self-reflect and take accountability for each partner’s role in issues instead of blaming the other partner. Involves painful self-reflection.
- Listening without defensiveness or anger as your partner shares difficult truths you may not want to hear.
- Continuing sessions even when it feels easier to quit, and vocalizing these frustrations and stuck points to your couples therapist. Fighting for your relationship during low points demonstrates commitment.
If you have out-of-network benefits, your insurance may be able to reimburse you for couples therapy sessions after the out-of-network deductible is met. However, not all out-of-network benefits cover couples therapy. Call your insurance and ask about coverage for CPT Code 90847 to check.
Couples therapy sessions are weekly. This frequency allows for momentum to be built, provides a regular opportunity to check in and address new issues, allows for deeper exploration of issues, and provides more support and accountability. Additionally, weekly couples therapy can help couples learn new communication and conflict resolution skills more quickly, build trust and intimacy more quickly, resolve conflict more effectively, make more progress towards their goals more quickly, and get more support and accountability from their therapist.
The duration of couples therapy varies widely based on the specific needs and goals of the couple. For relatively simple issues like improving communication or addressing a specific conflict, therapy may only require a few months and can be relatively short-term. On the other hand, complex and deep-seated issues, such as long-standing conflicts or trust problems, may necessitate longer-term therapy that spans several months or even years. The pace of progress in therapy, the therapeutic approach, and the couple’s commitment to the process all play significant roles in determining how long therapy will last. Periodic reassessment and communication with the therapist are vital to adjust the therapy plan as needed.
In general, couples therapy is designed to be a focused and goal-oriented process, aimed at improving the couple’s relationship and communication. While there is no fixed timeline, the ultimate duration is a collaborative decision between the couple and the therapist, taking into account their unique circumstances and the progress made toward their goals. Couples may also choose to continue periodic “maintenance” sessions after achieving their initial objectives to ensure a healthy and thriving relationship in the long term.
We provide online couples therapy in the states of District of Columbia, New York, and New Jersey. We do not offer in-person therapy at this time.
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