There will be times when you and your partner disagree, fight, and feel like you’re giving up. Common problems like struggling to communicate, growing apart, intimacy issues, financial stress, lack of quality time, and unresolved conflicts can chip away at that foundation of trust and closeness you once shared.
Couples therapy is a safe and confidential space where you and your partner can explore the challenges you’re facing and work together to find solutions. A skilled couples therapist can help you to identify the root causes of your problems and develop strategies for overcoming them. They can also teach you new communication and conflict resolution skills, and help you to build intimacy and trust.
Beginning couples counseling is a courageous first step toward strengthening your relationship.
Initial sessions will focus on identifying core issues and ingrained patterns that need attention. We’ll have an open discussion about your level of commitment and desire to put in the hard work needed. Therapy can help strengthen relationships with dedication from both people. If either partner is considering ending the relationship, that option deserves exploration. Therapy can provide clarity.
During this process, we will collaborate to find a pace that challenges you while maintaining emotional safety. Moving too fast or slow in processing emotions and making changes will limit progress.
The foundation of successful couples counseling is tailoring the approach to fit your unique relationship history, goals and needs. Depending on your goals, we can learn new communication and conflict resolution skills and work through repetitions so that these skills become second nature. Working through buried emotions may temporarily increase arguments as repressed feelings surface. Exploring sensitive topics could initially worsen anxiety. This is often part of the path toward healing.
With commitment and effort, open communication and working through dysfunctional dynamic in a neutral and guided therapeutic setting can help you progress towards a healthier fulfilling relationship.
We work with various dynamics and relationships including:
Couples therapy isn’t just for relationships in crisis. Many couples seek counseling to strengthen bonds and prevent small issues from becoming serious problems down the road. For instance, couples can see therapy to:
A strong relationship takes constant nurturing. Couples counseling is a tool to nurture your relationship.
Couples therapy provides the tools needed to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship, but it is not a magic bullet. It takes both partners to be committed to change and to be willing to put in the work. If both partners are committed, couples therapy can be a very effective way to improve your relationship and build a stronger, more fulfilling future together.
If you have out-of-network benefits, your insurance may be able to reimburse you for couples therapy sessions after the out-of-network deductible is met. However, not all out-of-network benefits cover couples therapy. Call your insurance and ask about coverage for CPT Code 90847 to check.
Couples therapy sessions are weekly. This frequency allows for momentum to be built, provides a regular opportunity to check in and address new issues, allows for deeper exploration of issues, and provides more support and accountability. Additionally, weekly couples therapy can help couples learn new communication and conflict resolution skills more quickly, build trust and intimacy more quickly, resolve conflict more effectively, make more progress towards their goals more quickly, and get more support and accountability from their therapist.
The duration of couples therapy varies widely based on the specific needs and goals of the couple. For relatively simple issues like improving communication or addressing a specific conflict, therapy may only require a few months and can be relatively short-term. On the other hand, complex and deep-seated issues, such as long-standing conflicts or trust problems, may necessitate longer-term therapy that spans several months or even years. The pace of progress in therapy, the therapeutic approach, and the couple’s commitment to the process all play significant roles in determining how long therapy will last. Periodic reassessment and communication with the therapist are vital to adjust the therapy plan as needed.
In general, couples therapy is designed to be a focused and goal-oriented process, aimed at improving the couple’s relationship and communication. While there is no fixed timeline, the ultimate duration is a collaborative decision between the couple and the therapist, taking into account their unique circumstances and the progress made toward their goals. Couples may also choose to continue periodic “maintenance” sessions after achieving their initial objectives to ensure a healthy and thriving relationship in the long term.
We provide online couples therapy in the states of District of Columbia, New York, and New Jersey. We do not offer in-person therapy at this time.